Your comfort zone is the place where you feel comfortable. Right? Or is it simply the place where you stick yourself and talk yourself out of doing something different, something greater than you’ve done before. You can find all sort of reasons why it’s safer, more sensible, less risky and easier to remain there. Except there generally comes a point where staying put in what you call your ‘comfort zone’ not longer feels comfortable. Instead it feels like a place of boredom, numbness, a place you’ve outgrown and with an increasingly louder nagging voice urging you to venture out beyond that place.
At least that’s how it operates for me. And I can create all kinds of resistance to change, normally in some form of judgement of myself – too old, too fat, too stupid, I can’t trust my choices, maybe I’ll screw up and so on etc. Not pretty and certainly not kind. That’s when I’ll start asking myself questions such as ‘ what would it take for all of this to be ease?’ or ‘what if I couldn’t fail?’ or ‘what energy, space and consciousness can I be to step into doing…you name it…. with a sense of adventure and excitement?’ And things begin to change, sometimes instantly and more often over a normal fairly short period of time. From “no I can’t’ to ‘ well maybe I could’ to ‘yes I can’ and ‘yes I will’.
And when I do get to do the thing I’ve been avoiding or dreading it’s generally a really good feeling, an achievement, a relief, a sense of pleasure, newness and even excitement. Whether that’s been more visible, writing a blog, creating a website, making a phone call, creating a You Tube it’s stepping into more of me and stepping away from all that judgement. It’s stepping out of the box that generally wasn’t mine in the first place, just one I adopted as mine and I wonder what all the fuss was about. Each time I do that I have more energy and more passion for life.
So some questions I’m asking myself that might help others who have become uncomfortable in their comfort zone:
What new thing could I do today that would allow myself to express more of me?
What would it take to make…..insert the thing I’m resisting….easy and enjoyable
Who does this belong to? (my beliefs, and thoughts about the dangers of being more visible…are they actually mine?)
And then as I was writing this a client quoted something that fitted these ponderings very nicely: Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.
And if you need some extra help freeing yourself from that comfort zone please do contact me on 07939118136 or email me to book a Breakthrough Session.
Great-grandmother says ‘ Thanks’
When I do Heart Wall Clearing with clients we often clear inherited trapped emotions. These are energies that overwhelmed our ancestors and have been passed down to us at conception and often to our own children; they can go back many generations or just to one of our parents. While I have done this work for some years now and am used to hearing the impact that Heart Wall clearing can have on allowing great openness to love, success and creativity, it is always a delight when I get feedback like the following:
‘I have felt lighter and freer since we started doing the Heart Wall clearing; the first session had a big effect on me and we did some clearing of inherited emotions going back to my great-grandmother, my mother’s grandmother. Well I must tell you of something that happened to me when I recently visited my grandmother. She suddenly gave me a most beautiful hand blown antique glass cream dish which belonged to my great grandmother and said ‘I think you should have this as your Christmas present’. I was really amazed and touched. Not only is it exactly the sort of thing I love and have collected but I have always felt a strong connection to my great grandmother as I was named after her – my middle name that is – and she was the one who brought up my own mother. It was as if she was saying ‘thanks’ to me for the clearing we had done. I will treasure this. What makes this even more surprising is that my grandmother has never given me anything before from her mother, although she has shared things with other family members. It was if my great-grandmother was insisting I should be given this’ Helen (name changed, although permission to share given) And this client described how when I had done Heart Wall Clearing on her own mother a year again she had experienced a lightening of the atmosphere within the whole family.
Love that! I have also had other expected feedback from the clearing of inherited trapped emotions, such as the when a client reported that not only did she feel better but that her mother was happier and had even started dating! Another client shared how he saw such a difference in his son. Another client experienced a clearing of energies in her female line of restriction and control due to forced marriages.
Things do really run in families. Even if we try to be so different from our families it can be a reaction to the energy of what we are trying to avoid rather than a true expression of who we are. The Emotion Code is a great way of uncovering what we may be carrying from our ancestors and clearing it easily. It’s something we couldn’t uncover simply by talking through our current issues and it can have such wide-ranging effects.
Give me a call on 07939118136 if you want to know more.